The Emotional Weight of Infertility and Loss
Infertility, miscarriage, and pregnancy loss are not only medical experiences; they are profound emotional ones. Grief, anxiety, and depression are common and understandable responses, yet they are frequently minimized or met with silence. At Lilac Psychiatry, this grief is met with care by Natasha Massoudi, MD, MPH, a physician who specializes in women's mental health, in a space where your loss is acknowledged and taken seriously.
What You May Be Feeling
There is no single or correct way to grieve. You may recognize some of these:
- Deep sadness, emptiness, or waves of grief that arrive unexpectedly
- Anxiety, dread, or fear around trying again
- Guilt, self-blame, or a sense of your body having failed you
- Isolation, or feeling that others do not understand your loss
- Strain in relationships, intimacy, or connection
- Difficulty around due dates, anniversaries, or others' pregnancy news
Grief That Is Often Unseen
Because these losses can be private, the world often moves on quickly while you are still hurting. Your grief deserves the same compassion and attention as any other, and it is worthy of care.
How We Care for You
Care is gentle, individualized, and led by you. It may include supportive psychotherapy for grief, treatment for anxiety or depression when they take hold, and coping strategies for difficult moments and milestones. As a physician who also provides psychotherapy, Dr. Massoudi tends to the whole experience. When medication is considered, it is discussed thoughtfully, including around fertility treatment and future pregnancy.
What to Expect at Your First Visit
Your first appointment is an unhurried 90 minute conversation. There is no pressure to explain or justify your feelings, and no timeline you are supposed to be on. Care is delivered by secure telehealth across Massachusetts, Rhode Island, and Florida, so you can be somewhere that feels safe.
When to Reach Out
If grief, anxiety, or low mood is lingering, deepening, or making it hard to move through your days, reaching out is a sign of strength, not weakness. You do not have to wait for a certain amount of time to pass. There is space for your story here.
What to Expect in Care
A few things set Lilac Psychiatry apart, and you feel them from the very first visit:
- One physician, holding space. Every visit is with Dr. Massoudi, in a place where your loss is acknowledged and never minimized.
- Trained in reproductive mental health. Fellowship-trained, familiar with the grief that infertility and loss can quietly carry.
- Time, and no timeline. First visits run 90 minutes, and there is no schedule you are supposed to grieve on.
- Gentle care, not just a prescription. Supportive therapy, treatment for anxiety or depression, and medication considered with care.
Your grief is real, and it is worthy of care.
Gentle, physician-led support, at your own pace, from wherever you are.
FAQs
Yes. The stress, uncertainty, and loss that often accompany infertility can lead to depression and anxiety. These are common, understandable responses, and they are treatable with compassionate, individualized care.
Absolutely. Grief after a miscarriage or pregnancy loss is real and valid, no matter how early the loss occurred. There is no right way or right timeline to grieve, and support is available whenever you need it.
Support can include therapy for grief and stress, care for anxiety or depression when present, and strategies for hard moments like due dates or others' pregnancy news. Working with a physician who understands women's mental health can make the weight more bearable.
There is no wrong time. If grief, anxiety, or low mood is intense, lingering, or interfering with daily life, relationships, or sleep, that is reason enough to reach out. You do not have to be in crisis to deserve care.
Yes. Dr. Massoudi provides this care by secure telehealth for women in Massachusetts, Rhode Island, and Florida, so you can meet from a place where you feel comfortable and safe.